People do what works....
Today I was talking with a client who had a reputation for being prickly and slightly aggressive. Once people got to know her they discovered all her wonderful, positive qualities, but too often people didn't bother because the first impression she created was of someone who was 'hard work'.
As she was telling me her story, I could see how she had once felt that she needed to be on the defensive in order to navigate the challenges life had presented her with. But now, she was in a different place; she had a great job, wonderful colleagues and, fun and supportive friends - the only thing that was getting in the way of her ability to make the most of life's opportunities was her own defensiveness; a habit that no longer served any purpose in her life.
Quite often, if you have a habit or behaviour that is limiting your progress or getting in your way, the secret to breaking it, is discovering on what level that habit is working for you.
Once my client was able to see that, although this habit had once given her a sense of protection, it was now of no benefit to her at all, she knew that developing a new approach would be much, much easier.
What old habits are you hanging on to, long after their 'used by' date?
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“Attitudes are nothing more than habits of thoughts, and habits can be acquired. An action repeated becomes an attitude realized.” Paul Myers
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